The Myths that Keep Us from Love

Are society’s relationship myths causing you to give up on love
or settle for less than what you want?

Most of the people who taught us about love are people who don’t
let themselves be loved. Hello? What’s wrong with this picture?
A little wacky, yes? Yes!

In truth, is there any good reason to withhold love from
yourself? The accurate answer is “No!” Let’s do a Reality Check
on love.

Myth No.1 – You have to work at having a good relationship.

Reality: A relationship that is good for you does not take work.
If you have so many problems and disharmonies in a partnership
that it feels like work to stay involved, then the person is not
right for you. Differences of opinion, style and preference
should be a source of intrigue and attraction, not a quagmire of
argument and conflict.

Myth No.2 – Negotiation, compromise and sacrifice are necessary
for two people to have a successful partnership.

Reality: Not every day! Frequent negotiation, compromise and
sacrifice are warning signs of a doomed relationship. If you
find yourself having to negotiate, compromise or sacrifice more
than once a week to keep your partnership going, that
relationship has too many natural disharmonies to be right for
you, or the other person. Fun, nurturing, lasting partnerships
are based on natural mutuality-an organic harmony of traits and
values that already exist before the two people meet, not after
they both give up their spirit to “make things work.” If a
relationship is hard, troublesome and requires a lot of struggle
and effort, guess what? No amount of communication or counseling
is going to make that connection easy, fun or fruitful.

Myth No.3 – All the good ones are taken.

Reality: Every single person has a special, perfect someone
waiting for them. The togetherness we long for is assured. We
have pre-arranged with one, or more, personal soulmates to meet
this lifetime in order to help each other open to love. All you
need to do is remove the living room couch, refrigerator and
kitchen sink from blocking the front door to your house (heart)
so that your destined lover can get in!

Myth No.4 – You can borrow good qualities from your “better half.”

Reality: You can for a while. But you need to quickly become-rather than borrow-those good qualities. Otherwise, you’re dependent on the other person for the better qualities. Enjoy intimacy as a mutual exchange of energy between interdependent equals. Address your flaws, and become the type of person you’d like to date. The Law of Attraction rules in seeking a partner. Like vibration attracts like vibration. If you possess the qualities that you want in a partner, the law of attraction will work for you.

Myth No.5 – If I can just change my partner’s behavior, things will be better.

Reality: Famous last words! YOU can’t change other people. They
need to evolve on their own path at their own pace. Besides, you
are always dating yourself anyway! In truth, your partner is
solely-souly-a liberating mirror reflection of your own
consciousness. You must change your inside world for the outside
world to improve. You are always meeting yourself in others. If
you’re not happy with the type of person you are attracting,
take a look at the type of person you are.

Myth No.6 – A member of the opposite sex-or energy-will balance me out.

Reality: Being balanced is an inside job. Fuse the forces of
your feminine and masculine energies to tap your full potential.
Cultivate playfulness, laughter and self-revealing humor. Invite
serendipity and surprise to reveal your other side. Welcome the
unexpected and spontaneous from yourself!

Myth No.7 – I have to take what I get; I can’t be choosy.

Reality: Invoke the basic Feng-shui Law of the Vacuum: You must
be willing to walk away from what you don’t want so that you can
be available (empty, receptive, open) for what you do want. The
next perfect partner for you can’t come into your life if your
love space is filled with someone you are tolerating, settling
for, or simply using to avoid loneliness.

Myth No.8 – I’m stuck with a lousy Love Script.

Reality: You can re-write your Personal Love Theme with a better
ending. Choose to be innocent (free) of the effect of the past.
Performing an autopsy on a failed relationship can be a very
valuable tool in helping you understand which areas you need to
work on to be more successful in your next relationship. Then be
willing to acquire or develop the skills and qualities required
to help you be more successful in your next connection.

Myth No.9 – I have to give up my personal freedom to be in a
committed relationship. Love = Ball & Chain.

Reality: Real love and freedom go hand in hand. In a soulmate
connection based on the optimal spiritual evolution of each
party, you can maintain personal freedom while opening to
profound intimacy. Give your commitment and trust to the spirit,
rather than the form, of the relationship. Sometimes lack of
communication is the culprit, if you view a partnership as
bondage. Identify the amount of space you need to be happy in a
relationship and learn how to communicate your desire to your
partner.

Myth No.10 – Because of “Original Sin,” I don’t deserve love.

Reality: Original Sin was actually only an Original
Misunderstanding. The so-called Original Sin we committed was
that we thought we were separate from God. Turns out we ‘re not.
The Good News is that we were wrong. There is no bad news.

Myth No.11 – Relationships take time, energy, effort and hard
work.

Reality: The only work involved is keeping love away. We spend
countless hours and effort successfully dodging love at every
point of contact in our lives. Every encounter with another
human being is an opportunity to receive love-in the form of
kindness, generosity, a warm handshake or a shared laugh. Right
relationships give you energy. Lousy relationships drain your
energy.

Myth No.12 – If I open my heart, my partner can hurt my feelings.
Love = Pain.

Reality: Other people cannot hurt our feelings; they can only
trigger feelings that are already hurt within us. The hurt
feelings are already present in our consciousness-in our past,
our personality, our programming. In truth, your partner is
doing you a big favor by bringing up a wound, a sore spot,
within a loving context-for the purpose of healing and releasing
it. It’s not possible to avoid hurt feelings in life or a
relationship. But you can use the support of real love to move
the hurt feelings up and out.

Myth No.13 – Another person can “fill the hole” we feel inside.

Reality: Temporarily at best! Only you can permanently “fulfill
the whole” within yourself. Helpfully, for a while, a partner
can remind you of what it feels like to feel loved and whole.
Then if you surf that wave of connection, you can arrive at the
shore of lasting self-love.

Myth No.14 – It’s best to hide your Shadow from the other person.

Reality: It’s best to reveal your weaknesses and faults as soon
as possible. It’s not called “in-to-me-see” for nothing. There’s
no way to get close to someone and not have your whole self
eventually revealed. Learn to dance with your Dark Side. Learn
to love everything about your unique self-the whole enchilada,
warts and all. The American Plains Indians revealed their worst
deficiencies and flaws on their warrior shields. They knew that
acknowledging the truth of our shortcomings gives us strength.
Full self-acceptance is our greatest asset.

Myth No.15 – If I just loose weight, I’ll attract the lover of
my dreams.

Reality: Weight has nothing to do with exercise, genes, diet or
how much we eat. Maintaining our perfect body weight is a direct
function of the free flow of love in our lives. Weight has
everything to do with our beliefs about exercise, genes, diet or
how much we eat. And our beliefs about exercise, genes, diet or
how much we eat are a direct result of our willingness to have
love flow freely in our lives.

Myth: No.16 – I’m afraid of rejection or abandonment.

Reality: Spread the heartening news: We cannot be rejected by
another person unless we have rejected ourselves first. We leave
love-love never leaves us. This is a good thing. It means we are
in the driver’s seat. It means we can open-and keep open-the
door to love anytime we choose. Find a way to move into more
self-acceptance and your days of rejection and abandonment are
history.

Myth No.17 – Relationships are made on Earth.

Reality: Relationship are made in Heaven. Embrace love for what
it truly is: a mystical sacrament and a sensual communion.
Align your description of your Earthly Dream Partner with the
design of your soulmate agreement, and you will find your
Heavenly babe TODAY!

Myth No.18 – I need to marry-or get a formal commitment-from my
partner to keep them around.

Reality: “Things which go together naturally need not be tied.” -
Lao Tzu, Chinese sage

Want to know more about the reality of real love that awaits
you? Contact “The Love Doctor’” Keith Varnum at 800.736.7367, or
keith@thedream.com, for your Free Love Analysis.

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Why Do You Want a Degree?

 by: Ryan Mckenzie

There are many reasons people seek degrees in today’s day and age. As a grown adult, it may seem like an unrealistic goal, but it is achievable. You may be sick of your job, you may want more money, or you may just want to try something completely different from out of left field. All of these are justifiable reasons to seek out a higher education.

Even if your reasons are not related to your job or potential career, getting an education is beneficial regardless if it is only for the sake of learning. After all, knowledge is power and the more you know, the easier time you will have in life. The only thing you really need when seeking out a degree or an education is a goal. A goal will keep you on track and prevent you from giving up. Set a goal and stick to it no matter what, you are the only person you need to impress.

Envision yourself with your degree; Do you like what you see? A smarter, more educated person; somebody sought after by the workforce and envied by your friends. If you like this vision, figure out what drives you to pursue this education, set a goal and accomplish it!

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Ryan McKenzie

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The late Norman Vincent Peale was a controversial preacher who
burst into public consciousness with his best-selling book, “The
Power of Positive Thinking”. He believed that ordinary people
could become really quite remarkable when they start thinking
that they can do things, and when they believe in themselves,
they have the secret of success.

So many people trying to start a business, don’t believe in
themselves. They look for advice from self proclaimed “gurus”
and try very little on their own. Any MLMer will tell you about
the power of duplicatable systems. While much of this is true,
and it is not always necessary to re-invent the wheel, many miss
a very important point.

A duplicatable system does not demand that you memorize a script.
It basically means that you know your product, and have seen what
has worked for others, and follow their lead. If you add your
own ingenuity and your sales efforts, you will do even better.

If you aren’t the creative type, it really is best to follow a
tried and true system. But if you are, you are selling yourself
short if you don’t branch out and develop some of your own
techniques. If you believe in yourself as well as your product
you have a winning combination.

If you look back in history, you will see many examples of
ordinary people who have achieved extraordinary results. Many of
the best known people who have left their mark in the pages of
history, failed a number of times on their climb up the ladder.
This is not a “history lesson” so we won’t go into the specifics,
but there is no doubt this is true.

These people all had something in common. They had self
confidence as well as tenacity in achieving their goals, and a
sense of fulfillment. Most successful people have a “can do”
attitude. While failure is always a possibility, they don’t
become fixated on avoiding failure and approach life with an
upbeat attitude.

You must however have a goal clearly in mind. This can be
referred as a vision of what you want your life to be. It’s like
the parent asking their child what they want to be when they grow
up. If you don’t have a clear vision as to where you want to be,
your odds of success are greatly diminished. You, and only you,
can decide where you want to go on your travel through life.

But you can’t sit on the top of a hill and think pleasant
thoughts all day. You have to come down to the real world and set
your goals and objectives. You have to set priorities and have a
plan to meet them on a regular basis. You must have a plan of
action, and follow it. In other words, “plan your work and work
your plan”. While things come up to delay you at times, you must
meet your goals each day. You must be organized, and have a
system in place to attain your objectives. Without one, your ship
will certainly founder. Excuses don’t count. Leave these behind
you. Build your own personal image of success.

Do you spend any time honing your skills? Community involvement
is a great way to do this. Get out and meet people. Do some
public speaking – anything to allow you to practice your
techniques when dealing with people. Most sales are not product
driven. If people believe in you, you are more than halfway home
to making a sale.

If you are fired with enthusiastic ideas and allow them to
dominate your thoughts, you will find that new horizons will
open. As long as your enthusiasm lasts, so will new
opportunities. Don’t wait for the world to beat a path to your
door – it won’t. Search out and seek new ventures.

Allow yourself to think outside the boundaries. Remember, failure
is merely a stepping stone on your road to success, and if you
exercise positive thinking, you will reach your objective.

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Goal setting is a well-known yet powerful method of achieving most everything you want in life. Anyone can do it but hardly anyone does. Imagine – something you can do in just five minutes a day in which you can increase your income, improve your relationships and propel yourself towards success. It has been proven that people who set serious written goals lead richer, happier, more fulfilling lives than people who trust their destiny to chance. If you at this moment do not have a set of written goals.Take a minute and think about what are some things you really need to accomplish and want to accomplish.

For the purpose of developing a habit of goal setting, I suggest you start with short term simple goals that can be addressed in a short time. Your goals can also be personality traits about yourself you would like to change. Above all else you must look at these things with serious intent. Write them down, in order importance. Now give those written words value. Transfer your goals onto one of those little leather like note binders you find at most dollar stores. Along with them write down ways you expect to accomplish each one. Studies has shown that people tend to keep up with notes written on stationary that looks important, like one of those little note binders. Good examples are diaries and personal ledgers, with a pen holder for convenience.

Set aside a little time each week to update and review your goals as you would a diary. This not only helps you to stay on track and realize the progress you have made. But it has a programming effect on the subconscious mind. That modifies your behavior and allows easy transition from one habit to another.

—————————- Why People Don’t Write Goals —————————-

1. Fear of failure

2. Lack of discipline

3. Poor self worth. In other words you don’t feel you are capable of great things.

4. Failure to see the rewards that result from serious goal setting.

5. Impatient

6. Unable to devise an effective strategy for dealing with the situation. This is usually a result of poor information or misinformation on the part of the planner.

7. Improper environment is when we travel in a circle of people who do not support a progressive way of thinking.

——————————-Anatomy of the plan——————————————

The effectiveness of any plan pivots on how well the goal is defined. Quite often we concentrate on the by products of the core objective.
Goals are set within definite timeline. Practical tools and methods at your disposal are examined. All ways leave room to make adjustments to the plan as conditions may influence how well the original plan works.

—————————–State of mind—————————————————

There is an age old question in dealing with what motivates us. To what extent do our minds control us and to what extent are we in control of our minds. Are the decisions we make our own based on sound analytical thinking. Or do outside influences play apart in how we decide the need for change. No matter to what extent environmental influences affect how we view our priorities. Goal setting is a necessity that warrants serious consideration as a part of your daily routine.